MY REPLY :)

Well I simply loved all your arguments..in the previous post.

And I take it as your opinion too.

Do you think I am like those..traditional women..who blame the girl when she is raped??

Ok its not about me at all.

I used the word control there.

I also said control is not only with power and strength.

And what I have felt after analysing..is women do like to control (not with power)  a men.....but only until it's safe...but the couter reaction...(I call it Rape) is not safe.

it has disastrous results.

Well....here I am not blaming women completely...

Majority is something. Isn't it??

(Well i think so).

And more over....Some men also get attracted(that way) to you just because you are a girl.

An believe me here also the control factor comes in.(The other case...I forgot to mention)

I believe that has been completely mistook.

And don't you all think...It needs a lot of courage for a girl in this modern times..to write this..

I mean it can be called so so traditional.

Anyway.......I am not here to agrue...and make a fight over here...but...still I'd love to get your points to it. 

Rape.....Men alone can't be blamed!!

Note: I am here to look into the psychological aspect of this issue. I am ready to accept any constructive argument about my argument. I am posting this here as this is concerned more about the psychological side than the social one.

Every person gets a kick out of controlling others. When the word control comes in..please do not start thinking controlling means power...force....

No, not at all...you can control a person..by things other than power.

And when it comes to women...we do not expect them to be controlling others with power.

(Exceptions are everywhere).

I believe they have other ways.

Many women like to show their skin ....and majority of women who get raped...are from this "skin showing" community.

(Exceptions exist here too...)

What kick do you think women get out of showing skin??

They feel they are controlling men....

Yes of course..

When men get attracted..to the so called "hot" women don't you think those women are controlling men??

Yes..women do get a lot of..unconscious happiness when they control men this way.

But they often fail to think..about what follows...

Oh! come on..men aren't some puppets...they also get a lot of happiness when they control a woman.

Rape is one of the results......

This is because...women find it entertaining only until they are on the controlling side...not when they are being controlled.

But I'd like to add ..mistake lies on both sides...and I also think...a mistake is a mistake...even if you are forced(provoked) to commit it.

ps:) My analysis...U can have urs:)

A heartfelt Thank You....

My b'day...was reely special.....I simply....loved being the centre of attention ..one whole day ;)

Well jokes apart....I was really touched by the way you all....I mean....Mom n dad... relatives....Online friends...college friends....old school friends...orkut friends...facebook friends...twitter friends...

made the 27th of may......so so special..for me :)

Just a note of thanks to all of you sweet buddies.. and special buddies...

Wishes through....hugss...

mom n dad..Aman, Inder, Priyanka...Kavita... ...Thnx to u thnx a lot.....muaaaaah!!

Wishes through..post..

My two sweet very sweet blogger friends..Hemanth and Joiedevivre(Neha) sent me a token of their..love and friendship to me through post....Baring with all the problems...of Indian Post services.....I simply felt so very special.

Their special thought and concern...for that....Huggs to u both :)

Wishes through blog dedications(posts)

Hemanth and Swati.......here

Saranya.....here 

Suree......here

Yamini....here

Nikhil (multimenon)  ...here

(I've put it in an order..I saw it)

Thanx to u all buddies.......I never ever thought i deserve a whole post on me.....

Thnx a lot for taking that trouble..Huggz :)

Wishes on blog posts

Amal Bose....here

Harshita...here

Thnx both of you...for making me feel special :)

Huggs

Wishes through e-cards

Amal Bose....Archana...Prashant...Keshi...Monika,..Thnx to all you special people....:)heartfelt thanks:)and hugss :)

Wishes through email and gtalk:)

Aneesh....Suresh Kumar, Nithin, Kalpana Gupta, Anwesa, neha..Suree, Sameer,Prashant, Raka, Tara, Arko(john)..Prashant...Ayushi..Hemanth..Deeps..Aayushi(crystal)..Arv...Aditya..Smriti..Anil Sawan...Stephen...Sormita.....Thnx to all you special friends...

I am out of words to thank you even....still...I hope....I could thank you..with a hug :)

Wishes..through..blog comments...

Hemanth, Anil Sawan, Kajal.. Swati...Saranya...Mads...Prashant...the geekie...Amal Bose..Suresh kumar...Sameer....Raka..Karthik...Deeps....Keshi....Harshita...Nisha..Pallav...yamini.. Meason...Anwesa...Neha..Smriti..Kunjal...Chriz..Aayushi...Lena...Arv...Ki..Preelata...Puneet

Mayank..Diya...Vani..Krishanu...Meera...Amrita..

Hugssss to all u ppl.....

:)

Wishes through Facebook....

Hemanth...Lena...Swati..Kiran... Mads...Sinduja.....Pooja..Harshita...trinaa..Farah..Amal...Aamir...Stephen...Smriti ....Pratibha..Aayushi....Preetilata..Diana...Meera...:)

Special thnx to u too :) thnx for making the day special...

:)

Wishes..through orkut messages..and scraps

Suresh Kumar,Kalpana, Sawan, Hemanth..Monika...Prashant...Srinivas...Vikas...Harshita..Vaibhav..Aditya..Neha..Rajesh..Lena..

Sridhar...Mohit..Piyush..Hemanth.R..Swati..Priyanka..Mayank Praveen...Diana...(for the animated ketchup :P )..........Sameera :).Thnx a lot buddies.....

:)

Love u all ....

Wishes..through twitter...

Archana..Smriti...lena...Arv..Chriz....Suree...

Hugs to u too guys.....:)

My mum and dad too did a lot to make me feel special.......Thnx to them too :) Muaaaaah

The concern......and the love..is important........And i am reely reely glad.. that I recieved it in abundance.......

thnx buddies once again......hugsssss

A heartfelt thankiyuuuu that's all what I can give......:)

Muaaaah!!

Ps:) if i missed nyone.....Plz..forgive me....:)  (unedited post)

18 years of existence ;)

So today......the special day of the month........27th of May...is my b'day......wohoooo.

Let me tell you certain facts about myself....

Do you know wat does being 18 mean??

• this is my 18th b'day
• 18 means....i can choose my hubby :P or can run away with any boy I love.
• 18 means adulthood
• 18 means dad and mum wud start trusting you more
• 18 also means...mom dad..wud keep a close watch on your activities with guys :P
•  18 means.....the legal marriageable age....and so....u start gettin calls from marriage bureaus :P
  
  
  
  
  

So.that's what is my significance of being 18 ......:P

well well well

Birthday is a special occasion for everyone...and this time its very special for me..

y y??

coz..yesterday when I overheard my dad say to mom....."molu velidu aayi" which means....beti badi ho gayi (our daughter is grown up now)

This is a great compliment for me.......I've always longed to hear that......it feels great very very great now.....

Every b'day story

## On my every b'day I like to hear the story of my birth.....how......mom went to Kerala..on 21st..from jaipur.....and how..in the same compartment there was a doc..and how..I missed the chance to be born on the  train....which could lead to free travel all through my life....and how much my maternal granny mom did for me....how wise a lady she was.

how dad sat all night outside my mom's hospital room...writing names of girls.....and only girls..

and yeha he wanted a girl.....

and how...dear was I that he named me.........Priyadarshini Joyce....

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the special of all......I came to this world so so early........yeh I was to come on June 13.....I guess.....I wanted to come early.... ;)

Mum tells me she kissed me for the first time on my forehead

and dad..was not even allowed to touch me he still has a grudge towards that nurse ;)

well that was about me.but today is the b'day of another person too.....yehaa...my first blogger friend.....wat a coincidence hah!

Happy b'day Aneesh......I guess u r the only one in my friend's circle to whom I can say a "same to you" when u wish me on my birthday.....hehee

happy b'day again dear:)

This was my birthday story....Yes I am special......for many people......

Thank you.for reading this.....:)

happy B'day to me......Happy b'day to........Nanhi Pari, Pj the Dj, pri, priyu, li'l miss sunshine, Joyce, Joyce girl,  li'l priya, Darshini, pri-pri and PJ I simply love these names given to me by my blogger buddies....

 Thanx to all of you......thnx for everything :)

She never understood him...& 1 year over here

She never understood him

Ahh!! She thought entering the computer lab for the last lecture. She rested herself on a chair in front of a computer.

As always she had chosen a cubicle with two computers. She did that to keep the whole load of books she used to carry to college on the other chair.

This was because she wanted to put forth an  image of a studious girl so as to avoid unwanted attention from (popular & stupid) guys.

She lifted the whole pile of books and kept it beside her. As she was turning back..she heard..."heyy wazz this"

It was...a  guy...of her college doing his final year.....

She knew that because he was the same guy who had saved her from one of his roudy classmates....in the first sessions of ragging.

Yet she didn't know his name...

She said...."am sorry......I didn't notice"

"its ok"

he stood up and walked away saying...that.

Some time after he had gone....she thought..that yet another time she had forgotten to ask his name.

It was 2:00 PM....she was at home now..

tired like anything as usual...heat was too high...

but she never slept...

how could she...

she used to wait for the afternoon chat...when "he" was online 

It had been months now that she had been chatting with him..first being on "4th of sept" .....

this guy..called.."Parikshit"..was a special friend for her's now.

She had shared with him....everything....that was going on in her life...and some of the things which she had not even told her parents.

She had found him to be a caring soul...to whom anything could be shared.

yes he was online that day.....

she told him what had happened at college....

He felt she was giving some iidications that she likes that guy.

Suddenly...what she saw on the chat box was

"Pragya"....I think you should concentrate on your studies. This is not the correct time to talk about love and boys".

"heyy come on..ikshi..I never said i liked him"

 

"ho ho ho....u r teaching me??......anyway I have some work to do..so cya"

Now..as the chat had ended so early...she went to sleep....

The next day at college...huh.....was the worst of all....

the same guy..she had a .."crush" on..had insulted her....for no real reason...at the college canteen.

She was damn upset...she shared it all to her chat friend...

he felt bad...but still didn't show it....at all.....

He kept on saying..."dear I think you should..be just worried about your studies..and nothing at all"

but later that day..when she was just cheking her mail....she noticed a mail from him....

long one...consoling her.... and also an e-card..saying "cheer up"

she was fine now feeling better...but her tender..young heart....fell in love with..yet another guy...

and this time it was Parikshit.

She kind of started giving him....subtle indications..with her silly and frank words.

Some days later....

When she went online for the chat......he wasn't there....she felt he was avoiding....

She felt....her "iskhi"...was tired..of her silly talks...after all she was a kid...not even 18...

She wrote a long mail...and..waited for a reply.....

What he wrote was shocking for her...and what she concluded was that he never felt the same for her.

The first thing she did was to now to change the name "ikshi" to "parikshit" on her chatlist...

"he can never be so close....."

Days passed by....

she was angry ..with all guys ...got back to books..... she studied hard...worked day and night with books...and she secured a high pecentage....

years passed by....she was 23 now....working at a software firm....

one day.......she got a call
.....she took it.....it was him....

"I Love you" he said....

She was surprised to hear that.....but this simple....chirpy....frank.... and yet intellegent girl had understood....why her "ikshi" chose to be away from her...

She was even more surprised to hear his voice....which sounded.....like....the college guy she had a crush on..

Love does not only mean....understanding....and care....but it also means sacrifice. Sacrifice needn't be of life......many a times that is very easy.

This is not completely fiction.....some of it is from my life....

1 Year On Blogger!!

I told you all not to miss this post......as today 25th of May......I complete one year of blogging....

A year of.....joy.....fun....anger....sadness....and now <3.

A big thanks to all friends.....all the readers........who read whatever I wrote....who....were there in thick and thin....

Some being close friends....some being....very special friends....

I had never ever thought I'd write a post like this......but many times what we never think happens.

Completing a year...of something......means a lot to me....coz I can never am  interested in anything like this for this long.

Even my parents are surprised :P

well.....I am no one to give you all anything... but I can surely give you a big thanks....

thanks all....for being with me....:)

ps:) do not miss the post on 27th may....

Nanhi Pari is Back :P

Yes you read it right....I am back........

Well...my sadness is like a li'l child..who is sad at a moment but happy again the very next moment.

I am able to say that after this period of sadness bcoz..of you all.....

Yes I was hurt but thanx to you all for the lovely  words(Hemz.quest,phoenix,Ayushi Suresh, Amal, Sam, Harshita,Deeps Kido, Pallav, Arv, Yamini, Smriti, Suree, Chriz, The Geekie, Amrita, preetilata, Pulkit, Joiedevivre, Anil Sawan)..mails(Smriti, Ayushi & Hemz).

and also Srinivas ..:)

There is something funny one of my older classmates said to me....on orkut

hahaha...

he kept asking for..a gal's number from me..I kept on saying can't give it to him without that gal's consent.....and ultimately....he says....."ok then giv me urs"

hahaa...Woh Nahi toh Tum hi sahi types :P:P

I was just thinking....we all are human beings..we all make mistakes..some say sorry...some don't

some get angry..some react..some think and react...some play games....some do not know that they are playing games...

It's all human.....it's forgivable and forgettable.....

So Hugzz to all of you all who were with me....and also who weren't.....lessons of life are so very interesting.....am interested in it... :P

I do not want to feel bad when I die...that "oh Priya...you weren't very gud to ur friends and you hurt many of them"

well...

Just wondering

Do we fall in love just once??

Kuch Kuch hota hei Dialogue....."Maa hum ek baar jeetein hei..ek baar marte hei..pyar bhi ek hi baar hota hei....aur shaadi bhi"

well is it correct??

:P:P....

Another.. wonder thought...

I always thought saying "I Love You" was as simple as that.....:P

But it is now that I know ;) how difficult it can be to express it to ur special someone :P

Now The song(prayer) bu Mathias  in Nepalese that touched me a lot. Sorry no transilations :( ;)

had put up an ad on Facebook for a translator....no one...gave their resume :P:P

ps:) do not miss the next two posts.....on 25th and 27th :)

Do You remember me??

As the same girl...the bubbly chirpy..sweet....cute......

who always wrote happy posts.....

Now.....I am angry....sad....have lost friends......indifferent.....huh!

What has happened to me??

I am not able to control my emotions....

Am not able to think peacefully......

I don't know what is the problem.....

I have a back ache from last three days......and it is sad that I even prayed......it to be a fatal sickness...

ahhhh.....

I do not know.....

am sorry buddies......am depressed......i guess........

I need to come out of it......Someone hurt me badly :(

am sad.....

May be the previous post was an outcome of it.....Am sorry am sorry

I miss my cat.....I miss it.......It hasn't gone out of my mind yet.....

heart of hearts I've been...crying......ahhhhh

TO THE GUYS!!

OK this post is to the guys(some).....who've been tryin to give me an indirect message that they aren't interested in me.....

Well for all of ur all kind message....

I do not care about you.....

and so you do not deserve to be called brothers too.

I've been facing a lot because of my frank behaviour.....

Can't a girl be frank?? If she's a li'l open to a guy....he starts thinking else......

I hate uuuuuuuu.........

what the hell......now I am tired of it.

In Love..

Yes I think I am...let me talk of a few other things first...

For the last few days..I've been worried..about a guy on orkut.

Yes the same guy I told you about.

He has been totally scaring me ...

I blocked him...but what is the use...he's been mailing me....and asking for reasons.

The problem is... he lives in the same city in which I live and to add to that..his brother studies in my college and I am sure..he'd try to make use of it.

I cannot quit orkut..as this is the best way Ican relate to my school friends :)

More honestly speaking I am scared of...guys coming after me..calling on my phone...

Its not because I am childish or something..but because..when any guy starts giving me such indications...I go on to think..many things..

Coz such guys project themselves as cool...and popular..every woman's man...

And I hate such guys. I hate guys..who are too popular.

And basically every girl(at least most of us) is very traditional at heart.

Traditional doesn't mean she starts thinking of marriage or she thinks of quitting her job and completely rely on her husband or love...

rather its..being the only girl in his life.

as Oscar Wilde says....

Men always want to be a woman's first love..Women have a more subtle instinct...what [they] like is to be a man's last romance.

Some relevance it has to what I am trying to say...

I am not a feminist but i firmly believe..that..girls have a clearer picture of their life partner tan guys.

When relationship alarms..

I think of is he going to be the same?? the typical man??

The reality is difficult to face...you cannot live in a dreamworld..of love..and when you face the reality..would he be the same??

there are many more questions..but can't mention them here ;)

I do not say i don't get attracted to any popular cool guy...../any guy...but basically it's the questions I ask myself....which..doesn't allow me to get into a relationship.

I do not know..why I am not able to write out completely what I feel..ahhhhhh!!!!!!!

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Daily Updates....

~~So this is where I confess...that I am not in love.....but I certainly like someone....It has been a long friendship with him...I have known him to be a very sensible person.....not shallow..an intellectual as I always preferred loves India..and he's on blogger ;).....and the best thing is.....he never told me about his achievements...never ever has boasted about it...but rather I found out.from my sources..

May be I a very frank girl as I am..won't be able to confess it to him.....and may be he also would be never able to say it.....I surely know it's more than a crush ;)

have I become a shy girl?? ;)

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~~then again....i've been struggling to say no to mummy every time she asks me to take meat....It has been a long time since i have left..it..but she's worried about my health....

well i have my own reasons for not taking non-veg...

hmmm

special thanx to all of you who wished my mom and dad..:)...

Happy Anniversary mom and dad!

Whoever we are...at whatever position we are...our success..our achievements... to whom do you give credit for making you what you are??

I truly give it to my parents.....who made me what I am today...I know now that I have reached an age at which I can say ....I possess a personality ...and a unique one too.

There was a dialogue in the film Shararat one of the first films of Abhishek Bacchan...

It was said by one of the characters to his..dad in the film.

(I don't remember it correctly but what is conveyed in the dialogue is what am putting here).

"What was the big deal.. you just did what all parents do..that's nothing special".

Just because most people take care of their children and love them...does that make the effort by each parent any less?

No not at all!!

I completely disagree with this belief. I have my own reasons for it.

I thank them for the values they have instilled in me....after all..values and principles are what make a person.

I am not a child who is scared of her parents. I respect them because they deserve it. I love them.

When kids grow up..they like to a away from their parents. but in my case its different. I am so very attached to them.

Well That makes me emotional....

So let me write about what I want to...

May is a very special month for our family...and the best of the months too :P

So today is my parents' Marriage Anniversary!

The pic is of my mom and dad..well not the latest anyway :P

A couple about whom people were even ready to write and give that this marriage won't last. people really do not trust love marriages ... lol

But now..it has been years...

Two special people of my life......

Happy Anniversary....mommy daddy....

Well This is a post wishing my parents ...on this special day....

:)

Special thanx to hemz..for his lovely e-card :)

Family Planning :P

Mom Dad and I were waiting at the platform..for our train..It was 11:30 PM...

I was reading Reader's Digest..and Dad and Mom were talking about the train being so late.

At that time..we had no one around us..

Just we three on that bench.

Suddenly a train(some other not our's) came and haulted. 

The AC compartments were before us.

Some 4- 5 guys came out...

They were looking at us..and then what I hear is...their..laugh... 

I kindaa..got angry...."what the hell these guys have nothing else to do I guess"

Then they all got into the train...

and train went off.....

After half an hour or so..I felt thirsty, hungry :P...I got up to get some tea..frome a closeby stall.

I couldn't stop laughing on something I saw on the wall...:P:P

It was written.....

"Chota Parivaar Sukhi Parivaar"

(small family happy family)

We were sitting just in front of that :P

Rains...Delhi...Orkut...and my latest Malayalam..Fav :P

Its a long time since I wrote.. something funny that has happened to me :P

I feel that there's a lot of sadness on my blog hehehe....:P

when I read my previous posts..I mean the first ones..I feel so...

Chalo kuch masti ho jaaye :P

It's an incident that happened during my trip to kerala.(2006)

It began to rain when we were reaching Delhi from our place.

Too nice an experience to sit inside but when My mom, dad and I got out...it was really horrible...:P

Our next train was from...Hazrat Nizamudin.

So we had to find a taxi.....sadly there was none in the station compound..

We all walked out of the compound..I was dreaming of...KV.....

walking on the side of the road...

It was raining badly.....You just cant imagine how badly....

So what happened was....water got collected in all the plastic roofs of the shops on the sides...

I was in my dreamland still...lol

What happened was...hahaha......

One of the shop owners..lifted the plastic roof.........and then......all the water.....on me....lol

I was drenched.....in water........hooooooh.......I stood there admiring the water..until ..mom came and shook me...and dad gave a nice scolding to that shopkeeper...

After reaching the station only......I changed. hahaha!!

That's all....:P

Daily updates...

These days..some guy is badly sadly and madly after me......lol

he says "hey gorgeous ...please add me on gtalk........I wanna talk to you"

"heyy my younger bro is in ur college "

"hey wer do u liv?"

lol....I hav a plan to haunt him in his...sleep.....:P:P I badly need to do that actually lol :P

But the scariest part of it is..he's from the place I am in.

As he keeps me asking my adress......Mummyyyyyyyyy.....

And now..am in love with a Malayalam song..badly 

Here's it "walking in the moonlight" :P

Clarifications!!

Note: A very sensitive post ...and so do not get into any conclusions..before reading each word. That's a request.

Opening my heart yet another time.

speaking what I feel currently...

writing these lines after having understood....life is very small .. though I realized it now......trying to be more happy than sad..

when we are angry with someone..we rarely try to look at things from that person's point of view..

This is what happened with me and Raka(phoenix).

yah I felt sad about what she wrote..(I actually felt it was about me but it wasn't).

She clarified it..both on her blog comment's section and even on mine.

I checked it later......after posting the quit post.

Then..after I saw that.....mood began to get better.....thinking that after all it wasn't about me na.

I expressed my stupidity of misunderstanding her...in my post......but how it appeared ..was like a hateful post.

I clarified it in the next post but it was too late till then.

I began feeling..why aren't people understanding me....why doesn't she(raka) come and comment on my blog saying now all is fyn....

But I was quite ignorant of her side.

yeah i hadn't written a hate post..but it was interpretted that way. 

Just went on to think......if I could feel so bad for something which wasn't for me..(though i interpretted it to be) then how bad could she feel about a post....hateful according to many....though it wasn't.

Ultimately......what has come up....and what has happened is human.

and I am very glad that....whenI confronted her.....she was not rude..rather was ready for a talk.

Because not many are.

Ultimately........I hope you all understand.....this.

I am not a very mature..girl..I realize it now....

yeha I can get off this thing...but it's not only about me someone else's name is also attached to it.

So I basically think I have a duty to write this...

Hope things get better......hope...is human.....and I am nothing more than a human.

Love is crazyyyyy :P

Emotions play a very big role in our lives..and those emotions speak a lot to us.....

Sometimes they predict certain things too........

Basically when we think of our love...many of us think....we'd meet him/her the first time....on a rainy day.....or we'd just collide with that guy/gal......or........may be we'd just get a cross connection over the phone.

Very romantic ....hehehe

But I the silly girl..... thinks just the opposite.....

I think....our first meet would..be very scary.... :P may be we'd meet the first tym while quarrelling lol or between a fight......haha

Silly mind it thinks all sorts of stuffs......

Whenever I listen to the song kal ho na ho.....it feels so good .....

another silly thought.....

 

I've been quite impressed by films having the plot based on "love is friendship"  thing :P

I often feel  that i'd fall madly in love with a guy ..about whom my opinions are something like "silly boy" :P

I'd fall for him while giving him tips..for impressing some other gal lol

hahah

that's the silly me :P

What about you buddies ...do you also think like this......come on tell me :P:P

An Angel was I......

An angel was I

To he I called dad

and to she I called mom

Preserved was I

as a pearl

Protected was I

in the shell.

The day came

day of rings

day of kisses

I was his

In my new abode

Day never came

Darkness was all over

The physical me was

nothing but cuts and scars

Hanging was I

on a string

hope ...

he whose was I

Fell deep down

never to come back

Betrayed was I..

A woman can suffer anything...but only until her love is with her. But when she is betrayed of it......she has nothing left.

Well today's woman is no more like that..that's a debate......but emotionally that's what I feel.