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Saturday, 30 May 2009

Rape.....Men alone can't be blamed!!

Note: I am here to look into the psychological aspect of this issue. I am ready to accept any constructive argument about my argument. I am posting this here as this is concerned more about the psychological side than the social one.

Every person gets a kick out of controlling others. When the word control comes in..please do not start thinking controlling means power...force....

No, not at all...you can control a person..by things other than power.

And when it comes to women...we do not expect them to be controlling others with power.
(Exceptions are everywhere).
I believe they have other ways.

Many women like to show their skin ....and majority of women who get raped...are from this "skin showing" community.
(Exceptions exist here too...)

What kick do you think women get out of showing skin??

They feel they are controlling men....
Yes of course..
When men get attracted..to the so called "hot" women don't you think those women are controlling men??
Yes..women do get a lot of..unconscious happiness when they control men this way.
But they often fail to think..about what follows...

Oh! come on..men aren't some puppets...they also get a lot of happiness when they control a woman.
Rape is one of the results......

This is because...women find it entertaining only until they are on the controlling side...not when they are being controlled.
But I'd like to add ..mistake lies on both sides...and I also think...a mistake is a mistake...even if you are forced(provoked) to commit it.

ps:) My analysis...U can have urs:)

36 comments:

Lena said...

i believe that some % of rape cases might be provoked by women style of clothing and behaviour. But most of them cannot be related to that. And even if woman is as you state it "hot" it does not give a man the right to do what he does.

Maybe yes, those who expose themselves are at higher risk to get in danger, but it absolutely should not excuse the jerks who call themselves men.

And it is not about blaming someone in this situation, you cant really make excuses for anyone here.

Trust me, even if a woman covers herself with clothes completely she is not safe, it is all about situation, luck, timing and many many other factors.

SMRITI said...

I disagree with your analysis that women are to be blamed for dressing atrociously. Yes, that CAN lead to temptation to some men, but look at the statistics....most of the rape cases that you'll find around have nothing what so ever to do with dressing. Maybe less than 1% of all people raped were inappropriately dressed when such a heinous crime was committed. Its not about who is to blame....it is about violation of someone's body and it is inexcusable.

Rest in a mail to you.

Mayz said...

m not gonna say anythin to ur logic coz it will result in an argument

Phoenix said...

i dont really agree to you that females looking hot or wearing provocative stuff makes men wanna rape them ... because doing against anything against any ones wishes is morally wrong...

and i totally second lena and mayank here...

peace.

MultiMenon said...

well,nice one priya kutty.. :) but then,I too second Lena on the thing that a percentage of it is caused by women showing skin.But then,the fact that men can run over them shows no sense on the grounds of morality.

The fact that these same men dun take this extreme step when their mother's and sister's show their skin is in itself a good enough exception.If that was the norm,then all these mothers and sisters of these rapists would have been on the wrong side too..

Nikhil

Sam said...

No thats not true. 99% of cases its the sick mentality of man that leads to this heinous crime. You cannot generalise.

Suresh Kumar said...

Can't completely agree with you.

Dressing sense may make some men desire for women. But to the extent of committing rape, I don't think so.

Its more than that.... definitely more than that...

Heard a radio programmme some days back. Provocative dressing wud only affect an already disturbed man to take such a extreme step of rape.

There are more reasons, PJ...

Anonymous said...

What should I say, when all disagrees with you...Dear, reanalyze your thoughts... :)

swati said...

i wont completely disagree wid u dear..but the minors are even being raped..gals as young as 10 13 14 are also being harassed..are thy too to be blamed fr the skin showing thing?

men should have control over thr mind if thy are living in the same society wid women..bt yes a very atrociously dressed women is to be blamed fr such an act..coz she may provoke men fr such deed.

bt i congratulate u fr bringing ths point frward..

Arv said...

to me... its an act that deserves only death... if a man or woman cant control that urge... then there is no difference between animals and us...

MEASON said...

I agree with u but not 100%. Dressing sense sumtimes is the cause of tis social evil. But many a time it is not so. We cant blame dressing sense in the case when the victim is a just 6 yr old child !!! Its the sick mentality of men then.

Amal Bose said...

i cant completely agree with you there..
dressing can be a reason, but in most cases its not.
its fully the fault of the man concerned. even if a girl shows off her skin to a nice guy there is a 99.5 % chance that nothing would happen. but to a bad person especially if he is under influence there is much greater chance of attack even if the girl is properly dressed.
@ arv
death would be too nice for them.. i say torture.. let them spend the rest of their life alone regretting what they have done (i know im being cruel here, but i cant think of nothing else) its something that shd be dealt very seriously

Prashant Sree said...

As already being said by many here,Just showy dressing isnt the only reason for 'Rape'. Its more than that. Read an article few months back. Rape of a male by 3 females. Now what will you say to that. ???

deeps said...

Ehem .. that’s a sensitive issue …
One that we had discussed at length in our Ethics class …

I have differnce of opinion pri…

Sure a mistake is a mistake, doesn’t matter who provokes and who is provoked!

I m just wondering then how several women who are not ‘hot’ and well dressed get raped! Even nuns!!!
Shocking …
Given your argument every other woman in mumbai should be raped (sorry friends)
And the rate should be drastically low in south, say in kerala and small towns …. And what we have? Yes I m aware of the cases go unreported for No of reasons … I had a brief stint on this with some NGOs when I was pune as part our course … and I can say, reality is different Pri …
Well, your readers too think the same …..

You don’t have to be a ‘hot’ or scarcely dressed to be raped, when the animal instinct in a man is raging, it s time! Be ready to flee or fight or at least scream…

Priya Joyce said...

@ lena:

well yeha..many other factors..truly there are...but this still lies a factor..

and yes no excuse for those men.....but...of we look into it more..deeply....isn't it like...somewatt like putting ur hand into lion's mouth....
lion can leave u or eat u...but most cases??

it does depend on the feelings in guy's mind:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ smriti:

I juss believe it's one of the reasons..and so i did an analysis....ur mail says it all.surely i agree......

but..ek sawal..hei..do all guys rape a gal in first meet??

or is it planned??

Priya Joyce said...

@ mayz:

well its not my logic alone..its the logic u get if u read...psychology.well

ur wish :)

Priya Joyce said...

@ Raka:

thinking deeply.....i juss one quest...
woh I hav mentioned at the comment box of the other reply post :)

Priya Joyce said...

@ multi:

i guess..wth mom and sis..there are many more feelings attached..than to any gal..tat's y..:)

thnx

Priya Joyce said...

@ sam:

any man can have sick mentality.....tat's quite human..
:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ suresh:

now i agree to tat.well feelings going thru ur mind do matter a lot...
:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ anonymous:
well i'd say...the same to all of them too they can be rong too :)

Priya Joyce said...

@ swati:

well I think...yes..but ultimately..am juss trying to give another picture...
tats it...:)
thnx gal

Priya Joyce said...

@ arv:

well i feel sometimes..human beings become worse...abt things..worse that sex
:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ meason:

well juss one reason analyzed:)

no issues
!!

Priya Joyce said...

@ amal:

sometimes...the "nice guys" are the one who cheat

was kidding

well i think i juss gave another picture..
so many reasons still left over :)

Priya Joyce said...

@ prashant:
well yeh surely it ain't the only reason.but it indeed is one of the very important reason....i tried to throw light on.
lol
Well....I guess i talked abt females being raped..it wasn't a male(rape) analysis

Priya Joyce said...

@ deeps:

I never said it was theone and only reason....I juss did an analysis over..the one reason.

well...I personally think...there's women suffer more than they njoy...controlling men....

well abt Mumbai....
I'd juss say feelings goin thru a man's ind also plays a role...big one

Priya said...

I respect your opinion but dont agree with it. I know of men who would rape anything that has a hole, covered or uncovered. How would you justify this argument for men who rape children?

'Hot' kids, eh?

Priya Joyce said...

@ priya:

well I juss tried to look into the fact...which is the reason of many rapes...

well I never said tat was the only reason....and u can't deny tat wat i mentioned os one of the reasons..

well This is not something to argue..on...many women suffer a lot..more than the joy they get out of tat "control"
:)

Karthik said...

So after you turned 18, this is the first post from you :P Jus kidding!!

I agree with you partially...

Saranya said...

Yeah, I agree with you to some extent. There would still be a lot of victims who would have had no provoking role. The thing is PJ, men are always the wrong side...and only sometimes it is the women, who can also be blamed.
Good post :)

Keshi said...
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Keshi said...

I.O.W. take responsibilty of ur own actions. Dun blame it on others.

RAPE is RAPE, and its a CRIME. There r no EXCUSES for it. Rapists should get it thru their thick heads.

Keshi.

Keshi said...

**Many women like to show their skin ....and majority of women who get raped...are from this "skin showing" community.


I somehow dun agree with that. Alot of Middle Eastern women who r covered from head to toes get raped on a regular basis, and mostly by their own loved-ones...so lets not even go there!

Blaming a woman for her clothing for getting raped is like finding an excuse for being male.


Keshi.

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