Life is (beautiful) like that part unknown IV

While for sure your positive attitude can help you cope up with the sorrows of life in a better way but it sure can take your determination and strong will to get, want , make something happen by any means ...to a long ride. But beware let not the opposite of optimism here be cynicism or pessimism. They but weaken you too.

Why the STRESS??

>> "I love him soo much but would he think I was an easy catch if I give in so early?"

>> If I don't show off my money would she think I am poor?

>> "I'm gaining a lot of weight these days. Would he go after someone with those sexy curves?"

>> "If I tell her about all that I've done in the past would she leave me and go?"

>> "If I don't cook well would he find it difficult to live with me?"

>>"If I don't remember her birthday would she think I don't love her?"

>> " I feel sooo damn sexy today...would he thnk I'm sluttish If I just do what I feel like?"

>>"If I don't tell her that she's the best girl I've ever met would she be hurt?"

>>" My hair is so messy ahhhhh I just need to go to some place and make it okay".

>>"If I cry would she think I am a coward?"

>> "If I mail/message/call him first would he think am sucha leech ?"

I have been through a few of them (I won't lie) and the rest I've seen gals and guys I know and others around me doing.

Why do we play mind games??

Why can't we be honest in love?

Why can't a girl or a boy be as (s)he likes?

Why can't (s)he be more relaxed in a relationship?

Why can't sometimes she look ugly?

Why can't sometimes he just tell you that he's not as strong as he appears to be?

Why cant she look fat sometimes?

Why cant he tell her that he can't affort that perfume for her.

Why??

I have this certain friend who is trying to be to be someone she's not. WHy?

It's because her boyfriend wants someone like "that".

I have this another friend who thinks he needs to get his girlfriend everything she asks for else she'd just feel what a poooooor chap she's with.

I surely don't deny that adjustments are a BIG part of a relationship.

I completely agree that once you are in love you surely do forget yourselves.

You do get up in the middle of the night sometimes to make tea for your loved one. You do need to miss your favorite show to attend a party that's important of that special someone. You do sometimes stay awake whole night when (s)he is ill. But all that's done out of the unconditional love factor.

What I don't agree to is when all these sacrifices come from just one end. Be it a man or a woman.

Though mostly Women (That's not important here).

Why has it to be the either one??Can't it be divided as well??

Why so much of stress??

Can't you be calm?? Can't you just take it easy??

WHY CAN'T YOU??

ps:) I need your valuable inputs to this!

Life is (beautiful) like that part unknown IV

If someone could give you all the freedom in the world then either that someone loves you a lot and is afraid of losing you or he/she is a bit too indifferent.

Relationships "Two"

Back to love and relationships :P
Someone told me that I am good t it. Go spy :P
Two things..just two li'l things that matter :D

1.Don't change!!

This one I guess is pretty girly :P I mean girls always have this complaint that the men in their life change after they commit themselves seriously. Until then it is a dreamy idealistic world. But only later on do realities come is. They find that they give them lesser time. The romance is all gone. The care the perfect things are all gone...The expectations are too high and am sure many women have to "ADJUST" with things coming on to them later on. Of course they do get irritated a lot of times. Lose temper.
The one thing that men can do here is... be real always do. Be honest. Women do have the courage to accept a man as he is. They do have the courage to accept realities and practical life as it comes. GO SLOW. Let her not have to adjust later because she's caught. Let her know you well and then only commit.

2. Don't try to change!!
This is pretty boyish! Let me explain. Men always complain of a thing like this. I've often seen that women think that they can change a man into a completely new person. Someone who keeps his things in place. Someone who is a gentleman n so on. Stop him from being with his buddies. Stop him from his occasional stress release drinking parties...That's not fine at all. You loved him for what he is. His good and bad all are yours. And everyone needs time out of a relationship.. SPACE you know? And yes it's good that the house remains in a mess sometimes. It looks awesome that way. It's good that he's out with his buddies sometimes  you have your very much needed private time.

I bet these two things need to change! The CHANGE has to come in without actually "changing".

ps:) you can add up your points as well.

Controlling the urge!

Writing after a while. And this time not on "Love" :P
The urge(s) I'm talking about in the title is....

1. The urge to show off. To make people believe you're no less. No doubt every single person in this world has it. OK lets not stray. What I'm trying to say is how necessary it is sometimes/always to control the urge to show off. 
A little incident I'd like to share. I was in Rajasthan till this june 14th. Living in a very small place called Suratgarh. Tiny you might want to call it.
What happened was a couple of years ago the owner of a big provision store opened a super market in our city. It was all well built...looked awesome...and no less than any of the big outlets that you might find in the bigger cities. We weren't much aware of it. But since it was on the way where dad and I usually went for morning walk we both just once decided to try that place. Found it good. It was cheaper.  We kept going again and again.But one day while just stepping out of the SM, I told dad that I wasn't very much comfortable with all the "rich" people coming there with all their put on . I wasn't very much comfortable to speak English just to show that I was no less posh. And not surprisingly dad felt the same.  Since that day we never went there.  Well there have been hundreds of such situations in my life where I've failed to control that urge. But yes there have been a lot of times when I've controlled it. I've felt good about it.  It's a beautiful feeling when you aren't bound to show off. You aren't bound to slavery actually.


2. And the second is the urge I'd not thought about when I began writing  but which struck me while writing the above. It's nothing but doing something for others who're may be dearest ones or may be not so close and not letting them know how much you did for them. The Bible says let not your left hand know about the charity/good you right hand does. So I think not letting everyone and particularly that person know that you did something for them is a great virtue. Difficult indeed! But that's why it's called a virtue. and I wouldn't like to share any incidents with this one for the very purpose of the virtue.



ps:) Written in haste :P just ignore the typos :P be kind hearted :P

Love is like....

Love is like a bird they say...You adore it so much.... it's so cute... You want to hold it tight... cuddle it to death...but then all you need is to let it be free...let it be happy...may be just watch it from afar watch it being happy.... and then somehow you find it coming and sitting near you wanting to get that touch from you...That's when you can actually call it love. That's when it starts blooming...

That's when it's a pleasure for both and not just one...

Life is (beautiful) like that part unknown III

Loving someone is but gradually moving to being your real self before that someone..