Saturday, 5 November 2011

Why the STRESS??

>> "I love him soo much but would he think I was an easy catch if I give in so early?"

>> If I don't show off my money would she think I am poor?

>> "I'm gaining a lot of weight these days. Would he go after someone with those sexy curves?"

>> "If I tell her about all that I've done in the past would she leave me and go?"

>> "If I don't cook well would he find it difficult to live with me?"

>>"If I don't remember her birthday would she think I don't love her?"

>> " I feel sooo damn sexy today...would he thnk I'm sluttish If I just do what I feel like?"

>>"If I don't tell her that she's the best girl I've ever met would she be hurt?"

>>" My hair is so messy ahhhhh I just need to go to some place and make it okay".

>>"If I cry would she think I am a coward?"

>> "If I mail/message/call him first would he think am sucha leech ?"

I have been through a few of them (I won't lie) and the rest I've seen gals and guys I know and others around me doing.

Why do we play mind games??

Why can't we be honest in love?

Why can't a girl or a boy be as (s)he likes?

Why can't (s)he be more relaxed in a relationship?

Why can't sometimes she look ugly?

Why can't sometimes he just tell you that he's not as strong as he appears to be?

Why cant she look fat sometimes?

Why cant he tell her that he can't affort that perfume for her.


I have this certain friend who is trying to be to be someone she's not. WHy?
It's because her boyfriend wants someone like "that".

I have this another friend who thinks he needs to get his girlfriend everything she asks for else she'd just feel what a poooooor chap she's with.

I surely don't deny that adjustments are a BIG part of a relationship.

I completely agree that once you are in love you surely do forget yourselves.

You do get up in the middle of the night sometimes to make tea for your loved one. You do need to miss your favorite show to attend a party that's important of that special someone. You do sometimes stay awake whole night when (s)he is ill. But all that's done out of the unconditional love factor.

What I don't agree to is when all these sacrifices come from just one end. Be it a man or a woman.

Though mostly Women (That's not important here).

Why has it to be the either one??Can't it be divided as well??

Why so much of stress??

Can't you be calm?? Can't you just take it easy??


ps:) I need your valuable inputs to this!


Saranya S said...

Good post!! And you are absolutely right, it won't be a true love if sacrifices come from one end all the time...and to be honest, those should not be sacrifices...unconditional givings as you said!

Priyanshu Raj said...

why????????? :P

~NeeR~ said...

Well everybody has their own definition for love and depth of relationship. But from my eyes and my point of view, people get bored of everything and its not limited to just materialistic stuff, its human beings too.....Till the time you are not into a relationship with someone you just see the bright side or you can say the fantasy world with them and you just ignore the other side effects it may bring with that relationship. For some these negatives are so much to bear in that relationship and they quit but with people who just find to be in relation better than any negativity, they keep on going with that. And in that case too its very important to have an equilibrium in dedication from both sides otherwise it wont work.

The cases of insecurity is just a fear part of immature relationships, the part where you find no confidence or very little in your relationship or your partner for even a silly things like fatty looks and messy lifestyle. But when this stage gets crossed, you dont get feard or stressed for these kind of silly things. And sadly these days guys and gals just focus so much on the immature part of relationship and hence they lost themselves in being someone else they arent. They do show offs, in dressing or buying things, in their lifestyle and they lie and finally when their truth reveals they try to adjust. Some get through it and some dont. So my piece of advice here is just be yourself, but if you admit you have flaws, that could harm anything in anyway in your relationship so just get over those. There wont be much stress when you'll give your true self to your partner.

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pri said...

these are all rhetorical questions arnt they, pj---the answers to which you already know? :)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Priya, good one to put up..


I have this certain friend who is trying to be to be someone she's not. WHy?
It's because her boyfriend wants someone like "that".

hmm.. this is whr many girls step wrong..

And coming to the sacrifices, when tey r frm one end its definitely a problem; both have to be thr for each other.. no much sacrifices must be expected too.. everyone has their own life!!

JANU said...

nice post...can't comment as I have been married for 21 yrs and am compromising, sacrificing, and yet am able to maintain my own identity and do what I like...well, mostly.(only if it is legit ;-)

☆ Rià ღ said...

So true!! Totally agree with u on this one.

Cяystal said...

I have no effing clue.
Human nature.