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Friday, 14 October 2011

Relationships "Two"

Back to love and relationships :P
Someone told me that I am good t it. Go spy :P
Two things..just two li'l things that matter :D

1.Don't change!!
This one I guess is pretty girly :P I mean girls always have this complaint that the men in their life change after they commit themselves seriously. Until then it is a dreamy idealistic world. But only later on do realities come is. They find that they give them lesser time. The romance is all gone. The care the perfect things are all gone...The expectations are too high and am sure many women have to "ADJUST" with things coming on to them later on. Of course they do get irritated a lot of times. Lose temper.
The one thing that men can do here is... be real always do. Be honest. Women do have the courage to accept a man as he is. They do have the courage to accept realities and practical life as it comes. GO SLOW. Let her not have to adjust later because she's caught. Let her know you well and then only commit.

2. Don't try to change!!
This is pretty boyish! Let me explain. Men always complain of a thing like this. I've often seen that women think that they can change a man into a completely new person. Someone who keeps his things in place. Someone who is a gentleman n so on. Stop him from being with his buddies. Stop him from his occasional stress release drinking parties...That's not fine at all. You loved him for what he is. His good and bad all are yours. And everyone needs time out of a relationship.. SPACE you know? And yes it's good that the house remains in a mess sometimes. It looks awesome that way. It's good that he's out with his buddies sometimes  you have your very much needed private time.

I bet these two things need to change! The CHANGE has to come in without actually "changing".

ps:) you can add up your points as well.





18 comments:

JANU said...

It is difficult not to change, and it is also difficult not trying to change...:-)

Cяystal said...

Save yourself for someone who accepts you fat/pimplish/ugly/stupid/lame/sarcastic/dumb/fugly/as you are. :D

☆ Rià ღ said...

Baap rey what a comment @Crystal above! :P

Prateek Sur said...

I think there's another angle to it..MISUNDERSTANDINGS!!People should try and avoid it...Stumbled upon ur blog by chance and now am following it..Hope someday u will check out my blog and comment up and as well return the favour by following an ardent reader of urs henceforth..!!
headacheandtension.blogspot.com

Jyothi said...

Both points are valid. Be ourselves and let others be too! Nice thoughts!

Priya Joyce said...

Janu
I agree!
But just for the sake of an effort. :))

Priya Joyce said...

Aayushi
hahahahha! I guess and am sure we should lol.

Priya Joyce said...

Raisa
hahaha yeahh :P

Priya Joyce said...

Prateek
Went to ur blog even before replying to your comment :D
and as per misunderstandings.. more the communication lesser chances of misunderstandings :))

Welcome here :)

Priya Joyce said...

Jyothi
WOW!
you beautifully summarized it.
thank you :))

Aragorn said...

@Priya: I see that you have turned more into an agony aunt kinds :D

Iam not gonna put some advice here but liked the 2 relationship advice which you have shared. Good going :)

PS

Arv said...

Well... it works at times and it also fails to work at times...

and I kinda agree with Janu too :)

Priya Joyce said...

Prashant

Hehe :)
I guess after writing this even I felt so. Glad you agree :))

btw what does your pen name mean ??

and ya welcome back here after ages :))

Priya Joyce said...

Arvind
And I agree with you on this! :))

Shreya said...

Both changing n not changing takes time. Both are followed for adjustment. Nice read. :)

http://www.iredeem.blogspot.com/

Rahul Bhatia said...

One has to keep fine tuning with time! Nice one.

Priya Joyce said...

Shreya
yes. It sure does take time.
Welcome here :)

Priya Joyce said...

Rahul
You know what? Ultimately there has to be a divine intervention. Until then even the best of the things can crumble.
GLAD! U liked it.