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Monday, 22 December 2008

Expectations...and expectations huh!

A parent expects his/her child to be the most perfect human being in the whole world....
A teacher expects his /her students to excel in all fields...
A husband expects his wife to be the most beautiful and caring
A wife expects her husband to be the richest.

Ahh! I might be wrong ...and the expectations might be different..but don't you think we all expect a lot from others?

Don't you think that is a kind of dependency?

Don't you think life would have been much more easier if we expected less from others?

I have often felt that one of the main reasons of sadness is expecting a lot...

Love..which mysteriously connects two people..gets ruined due to expectations...

~~* A few days ago...one of my friends...did something that left me shocked...I am shocked even now..she has spoilt her future...
I expected her to be doing well in studies..but..ahhh!!..that made me realize....I really expected too much..what right do I have..yes I am a friend.... I don't own her...do I?

Friendship is the most precious relationship on this Earth..I value it so much....

Expectations do ruin it...yes I've experienced it.....


I end with the lines I found in one of my notebooks...

~~*Har jazbaat ko zubaan nahi milti
har aarzoo ko dua nahi milti
khushi mei toh sab dete hein saath
Dukh mei toh aasoo ko bhi aakhon mei panaah nahi milti*~~

Be happy be cool...do not expect too much even if u r a fool :P hey I rhymed it tats on a funny note though :P

tc all

47 comments:

RiverSoul said...

How very thoughtful
:)
Nice post pri
:)

Harshita said...

People always tell me "Don't expect" and I tell them "Thank God, I am still human". :)

It is human to expect and there is nothing wrong abt it...although if ur expectations start affecting u in negative... free urself.

Bina expectations life is tasteless.

Trinaa said...

nice post priya!! but i disagree on wht u think a wife expects..money is not d only issue involved!

yamini meduri said...

nice post...!!!

life is all about expecting things but when they go wrong...we feel like the rest of the world is laughing at us...!!!

but still we dont stop expecting goo things about life, about frnds, about society...!!!!

ANWESA said...

well,expectations r a part n parcel of every relationship,coz we xpect dat every dear one in our lyf shud make us happy.without this xpectation,no relation can work.but,unduly high xpectations r harmful.don't u think so?keep smiling,lil' priya!!!:)

MultiMenon said...

Everyone gos thro ths i ges..der was a tym i expected much more from ppl arnd for the sheer reason tht i used to do much more than wat was expected of me,and I have been whole hearted in doin it..But the thing was tht,I did used to expect in return too..But when it got to me after a truckload of PR disasters that,all tht i expect cant simply not be achieved,i simply dun thnk in those lines..

the thing on wife as trinna wud b contradicted by me too..Nice post sis.. :)

Sam said...

Haha PJ turns POET!!!

Well the thought goes dont expect n be happy......

but our perception is we start expecting out of the ppl once we get comfortable wid them :P

Resurgence said...

Gal..... Tu umar me chhoti hai par bahut sochti hai..... :)... Expectations are part and parcel of life... the best one can do is to minimize expectations..... par shayad maza nahi aayega.... isliye jo ho raha hai usi ko lightly lo hamesha........ life will be easier... Aur seeing the frequency of your post.... I wish I cud be of your age now when one has at least time for oneself.... another expectation not to be fulfilled... but life goes on..... :)

Saranya said...

Thats very true. Living with less expectations from others but at the same time, giving to others without expecting more back...would indeed make life a lot happier and easier.
But at some point, we all, as ordinary humans can't live without little expectations...
All we can do is, try and not to expect too much :)

Lena said...

nice post dear.. but you know, expectationa are only human. You cannot NOT expect.
But at least you can discuss them with dear to you people and make them understand your point of view.
Each relationship is based on compromising. And it is not about not expecting but rather about being fair to those people around us who we care about.
I am sure they will appreciate.

sawan said...

i so loved the poem :)

Suresh Kumar said...

This is a good post. It brought me tears as i was reminded of someone.

I had written one blog if u remember on 'Life is Precious' and it was done after one of the person I knew made a silly mistake called as 'suicide'

Friendship is a sweet responsibility and not just an opportunity. Always expect good for others, not more than that.

I'll try 2 be truthful said...

yaar its like however much we might try but we cant stop ourselves or others from expecting.
its a way of life , however like u said i dont care whether u are a fool , friendships shouldnt be based on fulfillment of expectations.

Preetilata【ツ】 said...

awww :(

it is so true dear but still we cant stop expecting. :(

but yes life wud be hell lot simple, easy and happy if we start expecting less.

wah! wah! kya sher tha priyu. loved it. mujhe senti kar diya :(

but thn ur cute rhyme has pepped me up again :)

take care :)

mayz said...

expectations is wat makes us human...

joiedevivre said...

hmm it is dere..dey want al dere failure to convert in success in our lives..
for our benifit and good
we misunderstand dem at time...

Lena said...

hi dear.. sorry .. i didnt stop following, guess something happened when you changed the url.. same thing with blogroll, just forgot to add a new one :)
will do it right away :)

Priya Joyce said...

@ riversoul:

hey thanx buddy

Priya Joyce said...

@ harshii:

yesh of course I can understand wat u r saying..but hav u tried expecting less...Its not tat tasteless re
:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ trinaa:

yeh i know tat re...tats y i said expectations mite be diff but we all do expect

:)

thanx re

Priya Joyce said...

@ yamini:

true..tats y i said we shud expect less..and not juss stop expecting

:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ anwesa:

tats wat I said...expect less and u'll be happy

:)

CяystąL said...

YES. Never expect too much..
Keep expectations..but don't let them go over the head..

I lost your blog url..got it back ;)..
Merrry X'mas!

Twisted Elegance.... said...

You are absolutely right! Wives, even when they were girl friends expect those richness you know :D


I always expect the worst from a person so that if the person turns out to be good then its a bonus

Karthik said...

I've an expectation.. Plz send ur blog invi again!!! ;( Whenever i click ur invi, it sneds me a error msg!!!

lukkydivz said...

hahaha pj ka philosophy :D chalo acha hai, if u dont expect u will not be hurt.. but then lemme see if u can stay without expectations :O

Hemanth Potluri said...

poetic pj dear unleashed wow :)...its beautiful post pj :)...

urs..hemu..

Priya Joyce said...

@ multi:

yepp u r rit wat we do and how much we do we can't expect tat frm others..bakk I mean!


yeh tats y I said I juss generalized ...and all don't thnk the same ..hey thanx bro!

Priya Joyce said...

@ sameer:


yepp quite true

I agree..

Priya Joyce said...

@ resurgence:

yepp tats correct but lyf me kayi cheezein without maze ke bhi karni padti hei..

and abt ur expectations...u were once upon a tym my age na..:P

Priya Joyce said...

@ saranya:

those r some golden words from u dear.so very true....!!

Priya Joyce said...

@ lena:

yes true...being fair matters...but expectations can sometimes prove to be dangerous.I mean it can ruin relationships

Priya Joyce said...

@ sawan:

hey thankiyuuuu

Priya Joyce said...

@ suresh:

tats reely sad..losing sumone close to suicide...ahhh!!

yeh friendships r truly precious
!!

Priya Joyce said...

@ amrita:

yepp par I am telling if we expect less we'll be less hurt.niway

thanx gal

Priya Joyce said...

@ preetilata:

yes dil hei ki maanta nahi

:(
hey thanx gal

awww
:P:P

Priya Joyce said...

@ mayz:

hmmm....and over expectations r wat make us sad too

Priya Joyce said...

@ joie:

yes and vice verca too
:)
:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ lena:

all is fine now and thnx to yyaaaa!!

Priya Joyce said...

@ crystal:

yepp tats wat i too am trying to say

haha gud tat u got it now

:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ twisted elegance :

hahah i juss generalized it..all women aren't the same re

:)

yeh tats very true

:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ karthik:

hahha tat blog no more exists..
:)

Priya Joyce said...

@ lukky:

haan ji pj bhi kabhi kabhi philsophy jhaad leti hei :P

Priya Joyce said...

@ hemzii:

thnx dear
:)

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Ayushi said...

Priya, I will impose copyrights violation on you girl, you copied all that from either my brain or our chats XD lol
What you said is right, but the reasons you gave...are somehwat shaky...


Heard that bhagwad geeta's shlok which says dont expect fruits...do actions etc- This is what I wanna convey.
Well, a husband-wife relation is an exception I think, because love is basically formed on the virtue of faith according to which I think they will automatically never cross each other's expectations :) So well, there is no need to expect there. :>

Plus, love always has conditions. You have also ignored the imapact of that factor...

Aneesh said...

Expectations are the cause of disappointments..
But, sometimes we do expect even if we don't want.. it's normal and natural..
But, purposefully expecting nothing always does you good.
:)