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Thursday, 19 September 2013

Please do attend my Wedding.

Marriage? Hmm...

Everyone gets married. One day I too might.

Whoever is reading this might just wonder how come I suddenly raise this topic..
Let me tell you why.

This morning while I was walking with my parents we happened to pass by a marriage hall and then the discussion began...

I was just explaining to my Dad how people opt this marriage hall out as it can accommodate only a few hundred people while their guest list exceeds that.

He suddenly told me but we can surely opt for this as we won't have more than a thousand people for your wedding..

I went on to say who's getting married here?
I'd want to do a court marriage was my reply.

And what about the reception?  That we can arrange here he told me.

I wasn't very happy with the idea. I told him we'd rather keep a dinner for people who cannot afford even two meals a day. A banquet for them.

He was very pleased.

I added to the idea that if at all we want to call people for a reception we'd call only close relatives from both families and a few close friends because anyway others won't come for my wedding as I don't go for theirs.

Mom of course added, "How can you marry like this? You are our only daughter" ...and WE IGNORED HER :P

and the discussion ended. I almost got married!

Coming to think of it I understand how fake our weddings are. We marry in front of a whole lot, a big crowd in much extravagance. We spend lakhs and lakhs so that people might speak highly of the arrangements that are made at our wedding.

Once in a lifetime opportunity it is after all!!! or may be just "What will people think????? IF..."

The perspective is so wrong. People spend so much just to make that ONE day grand. The wedding dress cannot be worn ever again. Is it all just to capture some moments into your photo albums?

We all need to contemplate on how weddings should be.

I have always hated to attend weddings. I hate how people comment on the arrangements done by the two families. How the food is. I hate how people rush for the food as if they are eating something after a year.
More than everything else, I hate the wastage.

This is not how I think it should be like. Marriage is not about how much you spend. It definitely isn't about how many people come for your wedding.

Is this the only way a couple can begin a new life?

Does it in any way enhance their worth as human beings?

9 comments:

kjanjue said...

intersting read...

well written

KParthasarathi said...

Every word is worth its weight in gold.It is a wasteful practice that should be done away with.A simple ceremony if you are religious type at temple or church and a registration are the only things needed.The rest is ostentation.The young couple should put their foot down to end this costly social custom.

randomroar said...

You're a tubelight. Maine toh kab se soch rakha hai ki mandir mein hi shaadi karunga.

Priya Joyce said...

@Kul Sir:

Dhanyawaad :))

@GP:
Exactly thats what people are not doing these days :(

@Puneet:

This is you :P
Ok welcome hei pehle toh.
and abt the shaadi I've always disliked whats going on. Just got a proper blog idea after that discussion :D

Suresh Kumar said...

I was nearly fooled (as i am always :) )

I remember a quote, Don't hit me for telling it here

Marriage is a occassion when food is in the minds of all the people except for two people... and don't guess whats in their minds

CRD said...

Its just about making your wedding a memorable event. For the family, its about making an announcement and having the whole family and friends be part of the event. Of course, its all a social sham, but I still enjoy seeing my wedding album

Cheers
CRD

CRD said...

Its just about making your wedding a memorable event. For the family, its about making an announcement and having the whole family and friends be part of the event. Of course, its all a social sham, but I still enjoy seeing my wedding album

Cheers
CRD

Priya Joyce said...

@suresh:
ha ha ha :P well thats better than having just food on mind ;)

@CRD
We all enjoy a lot of luxury. We often fail to understand what at whose/what cost we're doing so.

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